FIND a meeting in your part of the World

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Find a Meeting in Your Part of the World
The Find a Meeting feature has been set to allow users to find a meeting by either:
• first, selecting their country;
• second, filling in the text box with Zip/Postal
codes or State/Province or City, State and
clicking NEXT,
• or, by skipping the text box and clicking NEXT
to access the following screen which has a populated drop down menu, allowing the user to select their city.
The resulting page will yield results for all
meetings within a 100 mile / 160 kilometer radius. We are currently exploring the possibility of reinstating the ability to set the distance.
The Meeting Map Search allows users to set the distance from a certain location and receive a map of all the meetings in that radius.
Selecting Meeting Map Search from the drop- down will display a default map. From this menu, select the country you wish to explore, then type in the city.
Please note the Map Meeting Search feature only works if we have map coordinates for the location. We are also exploring the possibility for results that would list the meetings chronologically, with their names in a printable format.

How Do you forgive the Deceased?

My father was an alcoholic and abused my mom on a daily basis. As far back as I can remember I knew that my life at home was not “normal”. Like most adult children, I have all or most of the characteristics from the Laundry List as an adult child as any “normal” person would.
Mydaddiedattheageof41 back in 1988 when I was at the ripe age of 16, and now, at 43 years old, I have yet to grieve his death. I am sad that he never got to live his life as a recovering alcoholic, but I am grateful that he no longer gets to abuse my mother or anyone else for that matter.
I just remember being grateful that God answered my prayers to make it stop even if it meant removing him from our lives. It is sad that I felt that way, but again, I knew at some point, I wanted my life to be somewhat stable.
I met a recovering alcoholic a few months ago who I was attracted to, and started building a relationship with him. I didn’t see anything odd about that, but after four months of attending

ACA, I now see why we crossed paths.
I do believe that God placed him in my life for me to continue this journey of recovery. He was the first to plant the idea of ACA in my head, and he discussed his recovery with me. I found it very inspiring and wished my dad could have experienced recovery and a different life.
I somehow had to forgive my father and release the hatred I had for him as a man.How do you forgive the deceased?
I wrote a letter to my father forgiving him of all the pain he had caused me and I allowed ONE person to read it before sealing the envelope. The person I allowed to read the letter was the recovering alcoholic, and somehow I felt like this letter had been delivered to my dad. I addressed the envelope without a return address and simply wrote, “To Heaven” on the front.
I placed it in another envelope and addressed it to my church with another letter asking them to please see that my dad

in heaven receives the letter and mailed it. I felt as if they are the closest entity to God and that was my way of forgiving him.
While I am currently in the Step program and we are just beginning Step Two, I somehow thought I could bypass Steps One through Eight, and I was already on Step Nine by making amends.
I was wrong. I still have some serious work to do within myself – but what a joy it was to release the culprit from running my everyday life of false emotions. I could not do this without continuing this journey with other recovering adult children. They are my new family that understands my feelings and me completely.
It is such a healthy release and I only wish I could have started the program sooner, but I am forever grateful to be on the path of MY journey in life. ❧ 

Literature

Healing the Child within-Charles Whitfield

Life Lessons for the Adult Child - Klipin

The ACoa trauma Syndrome- Childhood Pain on Adult Relationships

http://www.audible.com/search/ref=a_search_tseft?advsearchKeywords=adult+child&filterby=field-keywords&x=0&y=0

http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Adult-Children-of-Alcoholics-Audiobook/B004FGOGLE/ref=a_search_c4_1_2_srTtl?qid=1438644431&sr=1-2

http://www.audible.com/pd/Science-Technology/Healing-the-Child-Within-Audiobook/B00BFD2YXW/ref=a_search_c4_1_4_srTtl?qid=1438644431&sr=1-4

http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Parenting-Your-Adult-Child-Audiobook/B005R3N1KQ/ref=a_search_c4_1_6_srTtl?qid=1438644431&sr=1-6

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http://www.audible.com/pd/Science-Technology/ACOA-Trauma-Syndrome-Audiobook/B00BEXWH6M/ref=a_search_c11_1_2_i_pd_f_recs_1?ie=UTF8&pf_rd_r=1H8FAPRNTFXDRPCDYNCZ&pf_rd_m=A2ZO8JX97D5MN9&pf_rd_t=301&pf_rd_i=sexual%20abuse&pf_rd_p=2054195942&pf_rd_s=center-11

Gauteng ACA Meeting Northcliff

There is a Tuesday Gauteng evening meeting  for ACA from 19h00 to 20h30
@Northcliff Union Church
Cnr Dawn & Pendoring Avenues (Dawn entrance)
Northcliff
contact 0727830361 for more info

Tableview ACA Meeting Western Cape

ACA Tableview Group meeting 
Thursday Evening  @19h00pm
@ St Chads Church, 
Short Street, 
Tableview